I started losing my hair at around the age of 19, my eldest brother also experiencing hair loss at around the same age. I felt really bad seeing my bro having to go through that especially during his years in 6th form but i never thought for once that it would happen to me. I actually thought to myself my dad isn’t bald, so i guess it was just bad luck it happened to my brother.
So it was during the summer time of 2008 was when I started noticing the male pattern baldness kicking in and this was during the time I chose to grow my hair out as I wanted it a lot longer. I knew it had to be mostly genetics because I was stress free and carefree, just enjoying the summer without a worry in the world. However, the baldness seemed to have come on very quickly and my hair loss was accelerating at a scary rate which was a massive shock to me.
I was in denial, trying my best to comb my hair in different directions to try and cover up the baldness but it wasn’t long before my friends started noticing and then one day boom! One of them said are you going bald? I remember that feeling, it really hurt my soul, I tried my best to to hide it but couldn’t. It’s funny because when I had a full head of hair I didn’t care much about it at all, it was just the usual going to the barbers getting it trimmed and then forgetting about it. It was no big deal. But when i knew i didn’t have long left before I went fully bald that’s when I truly valued it.
For the next couple of years I went through a long and painful process of using hair concealers such as Nanogen, Toppik etc. In the beginning it was great because it covered the hair loss and people soon forgot I was going bald. The problem with using concealers is the constant anxiety and worry it brings with it. The thought of if it suddenly started raining or if the wind blew too hard the concealer would start flying off your head. Or the worst part if one of your mates decided to pat your head as a joke (which had happened before) and the concealer came right off, Luckily for me they didn’t notice it coming off because I was quick to put my hoody back on before they saw the bald patches that I had underneath. After a while, I started to lose even more hair to the point where it became pointless using the concealer which relied on attaching on to hair fibres for it to work.It was at this point that I thought, I have to let go because I’m fighting a losing battle.
For weeks I was researching into hair transplants and even sent photos of my head to get advice and an estimate on the costs. Some of the clinics got back to me and said that I was too young for the hair transplant and that it would be better for me to wait a few more years and then try for it, others gave me a quote and when I looked at the price I knew I never would be able to afford it. I was at the point of giving up trying to look for a solution. The hair loss had severely damaged my confidence. I dont think my brother was affected by it as much as I was because he chose to shave it off very early and accepted the bald head whereas I was in denial and held on for years which was horrible and damaging to me mentally and socially.